Tuesday, December 29, 2009

had a great day 2 @ Love Mercy 09...kj-52 was crazy...a couple of our students went forward to accept a call into ministry!

Monday, December 28, 2009

great first day at Love Mercy...Everyday Sunday kicked it off...the Aaron Pulsue Band led in worship and John Vermilya had the message...
made it to louisville...checked in...took longer than expected ...had to change the windshield wipers...lots of fun so far!
leaving for the Love Mercy conference in Louisville,Ky...have a good group heading down...pray for kate to handle everything well

Tuesday, December 22, 2009

10 Things I have learned this year...

10.  That God doesn't give us patience.  He gives us situations where we need to use patience in. 
          This time last year we were frustrtated and upset with the whole baby situation.  We had been trying for nearly a year and each month the excitement would soon be followed with sadness and the sadness with frustration and the...well you get the picture.  That happened for many months on end.  In the end, God gave us the best gift on Christmas day either one of us could have ever asked for.  There was another big situation in our lives that caused a lot of stress and had people questioning my integrity.  However, after standing up and realizing that my integrity is not mine but God's and that he is in control of everything, I trusted Him and the situation took care of itself.  Patience paid off many times over. 

9.  There are times in life when all you can do is trust that God is good and has the best for you in mind.
          There have been moments over the past year where we didn't know what to do and really had to lean on God and Him giving us wisdom.  I think that my generation, in it's search for personal freedom and it's obession with self reliance, is doing itself a huge disservice by not asking those around them for wisdom.  The Bible doesn't cover ever area in our lives.  There are things that we face that those people never faced and vice versa.  However, we often times just make decisions and fail to ask those that God has put around us what to do.  Often times, God uses other people to impart the wisdom that we seek.  His word is true and many times it talks about asking for wisdom, and I think that when we fail to do so, we shortchange ourselves and those around us of the chance of becoming more like Christ. 

8.  All the parenting books in the world can't teach you how to be a parent.
          I never once thought that being a parent would be easy.  I thought I knew what I was getting into.  I thought I had gone without sleep and would be ok.  However, there is nothing that prepares you to have a kid other than having already had a kid!  Even then I bet it will be different.  Still, those stupid books tell you that the baby is supposed to be this long and weigh this much and be doing this or that and it makes you paranoid.  I hate baby books!  Pregnancy books are ok because you really can't see what is going on or not going on.  Those books say to do this or that but don't tell you what to do when you clip a thumb instead of a thumbnail or how to stay calm when your baby just let a bomb off and it reached her clothes!  There is only one thing that preoares you for being a parent: experience.  I can't wait to see what I haven't learned as little Kate grows up. 

7.  Family is uber-important and time is short. 
         I had never lost a close family member.  I lost a grade school friend once.  I had been around people that had died but never had I lost someone as close as my Grandpa Andy.  Some times the timing of life just punches you in the gut and leaves you gasping for air.  Kate was born in early September and the week before we are taking her to see him, Grandpa takes a turn for the worse and never recovers.  Kate never met her Great Grandpa.  He never met her.  That one still stings the worst.  My grandpa's passing sent me into a month long funk.  It also really cemented just how short life is and makes you really put into perspective what is important and the smallness of what most of us consider so urgent.  We run around in our little circles that we call our lives so panicked and pressured because we have placed such an importance on some of the most trivial things.  We let our jobs or our houses or our belongings and the pursuit of those things become of the greatest importance and fail to prioritize those things that mean the most in the end.  I miss Grandpa and wish that I would have gone over to see him more often.  It wasn't high on my list...but it should have been. What is low on your list that you need to bump up?

6.  You are either coming into a valley or leaving one. 
          If you know me, you know that I bleed Cream and Crimson...I love IU basketball.  This past season they went 6 and 25.  They won 6 games and lost 25 games.  I taped every one and watched it.  Every second.  That season taught me a few things about valleys.  One, you sometimes hit valleys because of unforeseen things.  However, often times you go through valleys because you are missing the signs or ignoring them in your own life.  Two, losing sucks.  I hate losing and the way it makes you feel.  Three, building things the right way and doing things the right was is always the way to go.  Their season made me be thankful for each win they had but in life it helped me savor each "win" that I experienced too. 

5.  Time changes everything.
          I miss certain times in life.  Needtobreathe sings a song called "Stones Under Rushing Water" that goes, "The years go by like stones under rushing water, you only know when they're gone" and it rings true.  We don't have a lot of close friends up here and the ones we do have we don't spend much time with.  It is hard living life without family and friends nearby.  Thank goodness we have a certain family in our church that is just like family, well, they are family, just with a different last name.  Anyway, nothing ever stays the same.  You go back to your school, or your old job or even the house you used to live in and nothing is ever how you see it in your mind.  This causes me to do one thing:  enjoy what you have right now.  Enjoy the crap out of it!  Squeeze every ounce of joy and fun and love that you can get from it.  Hug it and pet it and be present in the moment.  Stop wishing life away or your life will just get washed away. Nothing ever stays the same...cause it wouldn't ever be the same! 


4.  Worry gets you nowhere. 
          I can't tell you how many things that came up in our lvies this year where we had the opportunity to trust God and rest in Him that we traded in for worry and fear.  It is not that we didn't trust Him, we did. Just not enough at times.  First it was the baby.  Then the lease inspections.  Then finding a car.  Then finances when baby comes.  Then people attacked us and tried to knock us down.  Then the C-section.  Then the heart murmur.  Time after time that worry gets you nothing.  It is an action that often times feels like the only thing that feels right at the time but when the trial is over leaves you feel foolish and stressed.  It causes the joy of the moment to be squelched and lessened because you have the residue of all those stolen moments of worry.  Jesus talked about it.  I know this truth...and it is something that I will continue to work on in my life. 

3. I need more vacations to the beach. 
          Who knew that when I married Sarah I would be lucky enough to have recieved such great vacation family to visit with each year?  I can't imagine having a better group of people to go on vacation with than MFF and Megan.  It is always nice to spend time with Peggy too.  I wish that we could spend a month down there and relax...Lord knows I need it!  I had never gone on many vacations to the beach until I married Sarah.  Now, I feel like I am missing out if I go on vacation to somewhere that isn't MB!  It is like going to your favorite restaurant and ordering something new and missing your favorite food that you always order (yes, boneless Applebee's wings, I am talking to you)!  Viva La Myrtle Beach!  Viva La Vacation!  

2.  Babies change everything.
          Sleep? Check.  Eating? Check.  Traveling? Check.  Church and youth group? Check.  It is amazing how something so small has such an impact on all phases of life.  Kate wakes up, I wake up.  Kate wants to eat, I drop what I am doing and feed her.  Kate can't be left alone at home while I run errands, I pack her up, get her a bottle, a burp cloth, a blanket, a hat, her pacifier, a change of clothes, wipes, diapers...  lol.  I can't imagine what single parents go through.  I am blessed to be on this journey with Sarah.  She is such a great mom like everyone that knew her knew she would be.  Kate is such a blessing and it is all worth it...


1.  God has given me such an amazing friend and wife.
            
In college before we dated, Sarah and I went to Wal-Mart.  I needed some toothpaste and some other things.  I remember this story well because of the thought that I had during that trip...we go over to the toothpaste aisle and I am trying to decide and while I am randomly looking at which tube to buy, Sarah picks one out for me.  I thought to myself, "She is going to be a good mom!"  And boy was I right.  Kate is blessed to have Sarah as her mom and I am more than blessed that Sarah puts up with me.  God knew that it would take just the right person to love me and be the pastor's wife and direction-giver and the putter-upper with the yelling during IU games and the person that would say the exact same thing that I say it...that I needed.  Sarah is that woman.  She is everything that I was looking for a wife and everything that I never knew I needed. 
         

Friday, December 11, 2009

Celebrate The Day

I had never heard this song until today when it came on Pandora...what powerful words!

The nearness of Christ

I love Christmas.  I love the cold weather and the snow and ice and all of that.  It drives Sarah CRAZY...and she usually follows my cheerful backing of all that Winter brings with, "Do you want me to die on the roads?"  Of course I don't :)  There is just something about the cold and the low hanging clouds that makes Christ feel closer to me.  It might be that I am so far from family and friends and don't get to see them that often.  It might be that through struggles and trials, many times the frustration blurs my vision and I feel distant from any and everything.  It might be that I love getting under a blanket and making sure I am COMPLETELY covered and knowing that in a few short minutes I will probably be too hot and uncovering myself!  (true story)...

However with all that in mind of what it may be that causes me to love the cold...I think that Christmas being here and having a child this year really brings to light what it meant that Jesus came like he did.  Not only in the way but the simple fact that while we (meaning humanity) were searching for other things and wanted other stuff to happen, He came in a way that for over 2000 years has brought warmth and comfort throughout the entire year.  He came near...he came from far away...somewhere else...to be near us.  In this big wide world, which I have never been to another country or to even illustrate this point more, I have never been further west on the US than St. Louis, he came near and it feels much closer than we probably deserve. When I walk outside and look up and see the stars and my breath at the same time and wonder how far away that is, it is then that I feel Him closest.

 So many times it feels like life is passing us by and some times it feels like we just are alone and everyone else is doing something amazing or fun and we are left out.  However, during this time of year, it is nice to know that we all slow down (eventually) and spend time with family and friends and we celebrate the nearness of Christ. 

I pray that during these last few days leading up to Christmas that you'll get done whatever it is that you HAVE to do...leave alone what doesn't need to be done and enjoy the closeness of those around you and the nearness of Christ!  Oh how He loves us...

Tuesday, November 24, 2009

I hope everyone has a great Thanksgiving and that you may be surrounded by those who love you and appreciate you!

Monday, November 23, 2009

December Newsletter Article

Let's Hope So.


Having a baby changes everything.  How quickly you realize this when your child needs nearly everything done for it.  They are helpless and in need of food, warmth, shelter, love, burped, changed, food, burped, changed...you get the picture.  They are one of the most helpless species when they are born.  They can't walk, they don't see very good and they have no teeth (good thing) or defenses.  Kate has been a blessing and it is still amazing to just look at her and be awestruck at the miracle of life.

This is why it is such a paradox that we find Jesus coming to Earth in this manner.  The Son of God, coming from Heaven to Earth not with might and strength.  Not with majesty or fanfare.  Not with an Army to overthrow or a delegation to persuade.  When he came he couldn't even speak.  Couldn't eat by himself.  How much did he love us to come like this for a people who where not getting it?  How much grace did the Father give us, a people who were still sinners, by sending Jesus to us?  I think that the Christmas Carol, "O Holy Night" says what Christmas is all about in a few short lines.

"Long lay the world in sin and error pining.
Till He appeared and the Spirit felt its worth.
A thrill of hope the weary world rejoices,
For yonder breaks a new and glorious morn.
Chains he shall break, for the slave is our brother.
And in his name all oppression shall cease. "
                                                         -Placide Cappeau de Roquemaure

          It had been a long time since God created the world and a long time since Adam and Eve broke the bond that was created in the Garden of Eden.  God had seen enough to know that we needed a Savior.  One that could give us what we so desperately needed: hope!  We needed a hope that all the things that enslave us and hold us down could be broken.  We needed a hope that our relationship with the Creator of the universe could be restored in a deeper manner than a simple blood offering.  We needed a hope that came in a helpless baby to a hopeless world that was searching for something better. 
         
          This world will make you feel that things are hopeless.  All the voices in our world would like to tell you to panic and you need to worry about this or that.  That things look bleak.  However, this Christmas season, for those who know Christ and the power of His resurrection, we are not hopeless. We are not helpless.  We have a hope and a future.  We have someone who is our advocate with the Father.  Our hope came in the form of a little baby, without much fanfare, without a bed, without his family nearby, without much money, without many visitors and without much comfort. 
       
          So this Christmas season, may you come to see that wherever this year finds you, in good circumstances or some tough ones, that there was a very holy night that brought us a "Thrill of Hope!"  May you come to see that even though you may be weary and bound by chains of sin or worry or guilt, you have a chance for hope.  May you come near to the heart of Jesus this Christmas season and come close to the only one who can give us the hope that we need! 

Let us hold unswervingly to the hope we profess, for he who promised is faithful.
                                                                                   -Hebrews 10:23

Friday, November 13, 2009

Jellyland update 11.13.09

Hey all...things have been busy the last few weeks.  They are about to get much busier too.  I hope this update on our family finds you and your family doing well and counting your blessings!


10.  IU's season starts tonight at 8pm against Howard University.  How excited am I about the start of this season?  Well, after last years 6-26 season, let's just say I am geeked. I am really excited to see what the 7 new players will bring (6 Freshman, 1 Transfer)   I have my IU gear on, Kate will be wearing her IU gear today and we'll be watching our first IU game together tonight after...

9.  Kate is going to her favorite dairy farm tonight for a while so Mommy and Daddy can go have a date night and celebrate their 4th anniversary!  Seriously, it has been an amazing 4 years and so much has changed and we've both grown in love and understanding.  I am so thankful that God has brought us together and that I get to spend my days and nights with such an amazing friend and wife. 


8.  We had a cavalcade of visitors last week/weekend.  My mom came up Thursday night and stayed through Friday afternoon.  It was good to see her and have her around for a bit.  Then on Saturday, Steve and Marilyn (Sarah's Dad and Step-Mom) came up in the early afternoon and we went out to eat with them and they got to see Kate.  Then on Sunday, my Aunt Lana, Uncle Terry and Grandma Martha came to church to hear me preach and we had lunch together.  It was the first time that my Grandma had heard me preach in person.  It was a great week and it was so nice to see family.

7.  Man, what is it in formula that makes it SO expensive?  Seriously, they have a monopoly on the stuff.  Whatchagonnado though because you have to buy it if you have to buy it.  It is crazy making a bottle because I am trying to be so careful and not spill any of the powder (which is hard to do because it is like a clingy powder) some of which inevitably falls out on the counter.  Oh well.  Diapers are crazy too.  Riddle me this...for the new born diapers that we have there is this yellow line that lets you know if it is wet or dirty...then after the newborn stage that line disappears.  Why?  Wouldn't it be much easier to tell with a universal yellow line rather than pulling the diaper back and hoping you come away with a clean finger?  I mean COME ON!  :)

6.  How 'bout them Colts.  17 regular season games in a row.  Wow.  I have a bad feeling about this weekend's game against the New England Patriots.   Just don't feel too confident with all the injuries.  Oh well...it's only one game either way.  My pick: Indy 27 New England 17

5.  Reality Check:  Survivor...I love Russell!  At first he was kinda mean and all that, but seriously, finding two hidden immunity idols without any clues?  He is becoming one of my favorites of all time...top 5 at least...no one touches Rupert though!  Amazing Race: I am rooting for the Globetrotters.  It feels like most of the teams are teaming up against them.  I like them and I like the Father/Son team (Gary and ____)...see how much I like them?  Biggest Loser: I am rooting for (in order) Rudy, Allen, and Danny. I keep wondering why Rudy wears a towel around his neck, under his shirt at everything physical.  Is it to sweat more?  IDK...anyways...Rudy...Rudy...Rudy!    who do you root for?


4.  God is always faithful isn't He?  I mean c'mon, when has there been a time when we were going through something that God wasn't right there using His Spirit to tell us, "Trust me.  I got it covered."  We thought we were going to have to pay nearly $3000 for all the baby bills when it was all said and done.  It turned out to be about a 1/4 of that.  God is good even when we don't see it.  Our lack of sight doesn't diminish anything about Him.  

3.  Sarah is heading back to work this Monday.  YIKES!  She is ready and not ready at the same time. There will be a lot of emotions and changes that she will go through and it will be tough at first.  However, she is a great mom and she will do great at the transition.  Please pray for me too...as I will be taking care of Kate on the days she works.  :) 

2.  On a really sad note:  We are getting rid of our two dogs, Lex and Flash.   We had thought about it and decided to wait and see how they adjusted and they  are doing ok.  However, we just feel like we don't have the time to spend with them as we should or did before.  We are also unsure of how Lex would have done with Kate once she starts crawling and grabbing at things.  So, we are reluctantly giving them up to a family member that was looking for a dog and is getting two!  We know he will take great care of them and that they will be loved. 

1.  Kate is doing really well.  At last weigh in she was 9lbs 2 oz.  She is gaining what she needs to.  A funny note.  The Dr. has this scale and if Kate keeps growing like she is, she will only be 5ft 2-3in!  LOL...she'll grow...or be a circus clown!  I have begun stretching her...not really.  She is smiling and talking more and more.  She loves taking naps with Mommy and Daddy.  She still has red hair and blue eyes.  Go figure. 


Thanks for reading.  May you know that you have been blessed.  You can read, breathe and use your fingers...you just proved it! :)